How to Keep Your Relationship Private and Secure From Society

People are always curious about other people’s relationships. And that curiosity is not always for the right reasons.

Sometimes people get jealous when we celebrate finding love.

Is it wrong?

Is it right?

I don’t know. Maybe it is and maybe it’s not.

And I say that because I ask myself, “Who am I to judge?”

I might have had moments of jealousy about someone else’s relationship before. Or I might feel that way about someone’s relationship in the future.

I’m a human being. We are imperfect creatures. We go through all that at some point in our lives. Whether we like to accept it or not.

Yes! You can't wait to tell the world about it. Yes! I agree your relationship should not be a secret but its most important details need to remain between only you and your partner. It's not everyone that desires the growth of your relationships, sharing the details of your relationship may just lead to problems.

These are the reasons why it should be kept private

1 We Ought to Keep Our Relationships Private

If we are not yet married.

I know how tempting it can be to let the world know, about your relationship with the love of your life.

But it is best to only tell those who are close to you and only the ones that want the best for you in life.

The more information people know about your relationship, the more vulnerable your relationship is.

When people know a lot about your relationship, it automatically becomes their mutual nonfiction topic to discuss, analyze and judge.

Which would make your relationship more of an event (or should I call it a “phase”) and not a part of life?

When people see your partner having lunch (or dinner, or just a snack) with someone of the opposite sex, they assume the worst and can’t wait to tell you and make you feel insecure.

Such an issue can’t piss off a couple in a strong relationship, but a number of relationships get shaken.

2  It strengthens your relationship

Keeping the most private information and details of your relationship, you become obliged to work out differences without external assistance or influence and this strengthens the bond between you two.

Being able to move away from the rough patches of your relationship on your own is great for your relationship because you are reaching decisions based on your personal understanding of the relationship, not from what some other person thinks of your relationship.

This is the best way to be in a relationship, except when it becomes really necessary to seek advice or let people know what's actually going on.

3  It Reduces The Pressure.

If you are keeping your relationship between just you and your partner, you are not getting baseless, pointless and home wrecking pieces of advice. This reduces the pressure and you can both move the relationship the way that suits both of you.

4  Shuts out bad advice.

By keeping your relationship away from friends, family and social networks, you actually leave no room for people to pass judgments and direct the way your relationship should work out. This also helps you ignore everything outsiders might say about your relationship. Besides, private relationships are more secured and leave no room for insecurity.

Just because your partner wants your relationship to be private doesn't exactly mean he/she doesn't love you or is ashamed of you or so many other things people assume and make you believe and just because your partner makes your relationship public doesn't mean they are in love with you.

Kevin Tau contributed to this post and has the second part on his blog Kelvin Tau blog