Talking about the future with your partner.

Talking about the future always stresses couples out especially when you drop in words like babies,marriages or just asking about the direction of the relationship. It is often avoided avoid arguments or heated debates.
Oh yes! You are in love, you are having an awesome time yet you still find yourself wanting to talk to your partner about what the future holds and that's perfectly normal. Talking about the future can be pretty scary because it either makes or mar the relationship.
Maybe the "future" talk doesn't have to be scary or tough and here are tips for that;

• Honesty: the most important thing to do is being honest. Tell your partner everything you want and don't hold back.Having fears like what if they don't want what I want or what if my partner thinks it is absurd is perfectly normal. Don't think about the what ifs.But if that turns out to be true you either find a way to deal with it or realise the relationship isn't for you. So, the best thing to do is being honest.
•Focus on what you want: it can be easy to let serious talks affect what you really want for your future by thinking about your partner and what they might not be able to give you in the relationship.Whatever you want or need, say it and define your boundaries and what will happen will happen.
•Relax:You need to be able to let go a little. If you are looking for an explicit conversation about the future and what that might look like with your specific partner.By getting tensed, you are more likely to have an emotional outburst, say something that hurts your partner's feelings, or give ultimatums. None of these things are going to be good for your relationship in the long-term.Being cool, calm and collected, and letting the conversation flow naturally is the best way to talk about the future.
•Keeping an open mind: Talking about the future is always most times what we want so keeping an open mind to see what your partner wants even it might not exactly be what you want to hear but its important to always hear them out and see if you can work your way through it.

No matter how the conversation goes with your partner, it's up to you to decide if you can live with it or not.
Arguing constantly won't get you anywhere with your partner. Instead, you might just destroy the relationship you already have.

Are you going to change your mind about what you want? Probably not, so why would you think your partner is going to change it suddenly? Not only that, but keep in mind that what you want isn't necessarily the right thing,it's just what you want.

Marriage and a future aren't inherently good or bad, and there are different paths for different people, so avoid treating your partner like a jerk just because you don't want the same things. Instead, decide what will be best for you and take that route.
Although it can be scary to have a conversation about your future in a relationship you really care about, there's no other way forward.
Just follow the tips on this list and be sure to keep your cool.


Remember, there can be no perfect future but you can make your future everything you want.