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Jealousy in relationships

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Jealousy is an emotion that almost everyone in relationships experience from time to time but the persistent feelings of jealousy can damage a relationship and can prove difficult for both parties, particularly if the feelings are irrational or have no basis in reality.

Relationships are about the capacity to feel everything and to still go on. The key is to recognize, validate and accept these feelings as normal.
"It is not love that is blind, but jealousy."
Most people feel a little jealous sometimes, especially when they have strong feelings of attraction and love for their partner, and a little jealousy
occasionally can add relish to a relationship. There are some questions that keeps coming up like the reason behind jealousy?What does jealousy in a relationship mean?
Feelings of jealousy are usually rooted in three main causes:fear, insecurity and competition .

•Feelings of insecurity.
Feelings of insecurity usually arise when one member of the relationship questions t…

Why we shouldn't be too nice

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If you constantly sacrifice your own needs and wants for those of others due to concerns of conflict or disapproval, you’re simply "too nice"!

I consider myself to be a nice person, I will always put others before myself, and do everything in my power to please those around me. I volunteer to help and give at any opportunity even if it is at my expense. Then It hit me like a big, fat boulder that being "too nice" which I clearly was can sometimes backfire on us and cause more hurt to myself than I bargained for.

Based on what I've seen so far, people who compulsively say “yes” to everyone’s wants and needs often experience greater levels of stress and emotional burnout; they spend all their energy trying to make others happy  and they forget to take care of their own wants and needs.
Yes! We all want to be selfless, but in neglecting our own needs, we diminish our ability to do so and the end result leads to feeling tired and moody because you were not caring …

Is sex and intimacy really important in relationships?

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Sex!Isn't it just sex? Yes! It is just sex, no addition nor subtraction yet society has added and subtracted lots in it. I think the whole point of sex in relationships has been clearly misunderstood these days. Sex in relationships can be important but that doesn't mean it is compulsory nor a determining factor in relationships.

 I know very well boys as well as girls sometimes have the mindset that "a no sex relationship" is regarded as a boring relationship. Yes again!Sex has its importance in relationships but we have to remember it also has demerits. There are so many reasons why couples have sex that are not just about the physical pleasure. Often, couples derive an emotional closeness during sex that may be just as important as physical pleasure.

There are countless ways to have this closeness and intimacy that sexuality provides; whether it is co-masturbation, oral sex and other options but the main thing is making sure your partner is comfortable with it. P…

DEPRESSION

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Hi there!

Today i would be talking about a serious issue common in our society today, DEPRESSION.

Depression has really become a rampant issue in the society today, it cuts through all ages, tribe and different races. According to the american psychiatric association, depression was defined as a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act..... A general feeling of worthlessness, loss of interest, feeling sad or having a depressed mood could be symptoms of depression....



Most people confuse bereavement,sadness or grief for depression, which is totally wrong.

The death of a loved one, ending of a relationship or loss of properties are experiencing difficult for a person to endure.....You go through stages of sadness, mixed feelings perhaps remorse. At that point in time, you refer to yourself as being depressed which  is absolutely wrong, being sad is not the same as having depression...

Depression affects your self-esteem b…

A dialogue between "Tau Kelvin" and the "Africanweirdo" on Long distance relationships.

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Your thoughts on long-distance relationships?

African weirdo: Long distance relationship isn't really as bad as most people make it out to be as long as the people involved are ready to sustain the relationship. Besides, most LDRs don't start out that way, most of them happen due to circumstances causing one partner to move away from the other.
Tau Kelvin: I think they only work for a short period of time. They are like a fling. There are two things that I think make a relationship work, being together and sacrifice. And I believe this is very much unnoticed by many.
We now live in a Facebook, WhatsApp, Skype world and we believe staying connected via these instant connection ways is important for a relationship to work.

What do you think is the most challenging thing for coupled in long distance relationships?
Tau Kelvin: Obviously the biggest challenge is not being there. My partner is not in the army, I would definitely understand if she was, and we were
forced to be in a long …

Would you as a partner allow your other have unlimited access to your social media platforms? Relevant or unnecessary?

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I once knew a couple, they truly loved each other but there was a problem with trust because the guy believed his woman was cheating on him because she refused to let him even go through her SMS messages less social media messages. In fact, he didn't know the password to unlock her device.

Another case I knew was of another couple who loved each other yet neither of them was interested in their partner's social media accounts cause they believed it would be a breach of privacy and they trusted each other far beyond those grounds. They respected each other and only would go through their social media accounts if their partner allows them or is required of them.

Truly,we are in a world where technology and social media rules and everything going on in our lives are displayed on social media.Civilization is key in almost every part of society.

So many things happen on social media that causes couples to question each other's loyalty and that is just the beginning of trust is…

Skinny shaming and the Society

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Why does anyone have to be judged?People just can't keep their mouths shut? They feel the need to constantly judge and defame others,humans like to judge people based on their appearances even without getting to know who they really are beneath the whole physical aesthetics. People like to talk about other people, they would rather hear the worst in people than find the good in people. These people constantly criticize people because they believe  they are better than they are.

These are negative people and you do not need people like this around you,hell no! You need to understand it doesn't really matter what people say about you. Feel confident about yourself while you walk past these people with your head held high and with a beautiful smile.

You have to accept that you are you irrespective of others. Whether you are skinny, short, or ugly, Just continue being yourself.

The recent thing happening is skinny shaming and people don't even acknowledge what it is because t…