Why we shouldn't be too nice

If you constantly sacrifice your own needs and wants for those of others due to concerns of conflict or disapproval, you’re simply "too nice"!

I consider myself to be a nice person, I will always put others before myself, and do everything in my power to please those around me. I volunteer to help and give at any opportunity even if it is at my expense. Then It hit me like a big, fat boulder that being "too nice" which I clearly was can sometimes backfire on us and cause more hurt to myself than I bargained for.

Based on what I've seen so far, people who compulsively say “yes” to everyone’s wants and needs often experience greater levels of stress and emotional burnout; they spend all their energy trying to make others happy  and they forget to take care of their own wants and needs.
Yes! We all want to be selfless, but in neglecting our own needs, we diminish our ability to do so and the end result leads to feeling tired and moody because you were not caring for yourself physically. As we  volunteer to do more and more, people began to expect more and are in hopes that you would do everything and anything for them.

Being nice is an act of kindness and is often seen as a sign of moral virtue in society, and in many ways it is, but most people who are “too nice” often have their kindness rooted in an unhealthy desire to be accepted and liked by others, and not necessarily out of the goodness of their heart.They do nice things for others not because they genuinely want to but because they feel that is what is expected of them or they are desperate for positive attention.

In addition, “too nice” syndrome can often make us resentful toward others.
If we find ourselves giving and giving and giving, but we never get anything back, we begin to grow bitter toward the people we are nice towards. It’s because we often do these kind things with the expectation of something in return, and when we don’t get anything we feel like we’ve been wronged.

Being too generous can even be seen as a form of selfishness and as a way of trying to stand out from the crowd and seem better than others.
Another disadvantage of being “too nice” is that people often perceive that as a sign of weakness and an opportunity to take advantage of you.

Being a kind and nice person doesn't have to be a problem, but it has to come from a place of balance, strength and understanding.
The "too nice" trap has hurt so many people,both physically and emotionally and here are some ways to avoid the too nice trap.
•Know when your kindness is being taken advantage of.
•Always do things for yourself.
•Be kind because you want to be and not because someone is expecting you to be
•Have self esteem.

Being nice is really good but when you go over,you lose yourself and people will always expect more and when you can't give, they become so resentful towards you.

Create a balance between taking care of your needs and that of others. There is nothing wrong in playing safe while being nice, people are unpredictable and humanly selfish.

Stay nice, stay smart and stay emotional healthy!